What pushed the idea significantly ahead was the fact that
off late, I hadn’t delivered any strong happy news to my parents. Fine, I
recently completed my MBA from an American University. It was no where close to
something like I got married. Or I became father. Or I came home for Diwali
unannounced. There you go. Their happiness would know no bounds if I get home
for this biggest family festival of Hindu calendar. My mother’s complaints
about being lonely on Diwali in the past years had given me a fair picture of
what they would be like if did not come home. My father would be asleep by 8:30
in the evening after the laxmi pujan. My mother would be watching TV like other
three-sixty-four days of the year.
Thus I decided to come home. After all, doesn’t the
romanticism of Diwali include home coming of Ram? At a short notice I got
cheapest tickets with Kuwait Airways, which I regretted later though.
In America, a usual greeting is ‘What’s up’. Of course, all
cultures of have their own versions of what’s up. India or the Hindi-speaking
India has “Aur sunao”, “Nayi taazi?”, “Kya haal chaal”. Irrespective of the
flavor, this greeting would often annoy the hell out of me because I detest
pattern repetition, more so such repetition in my own responses. I just could
not stand me saying ‘Nothing much’ or ‘bas badhiya’ all the time to someone. I
am ready to be accused of having retarded social skills for not coming up with
new responses each time. I just didn’t like boring the crap out of a person by responding
to him or her with this redundant reply every time. But now, when any friend or colleague who would say, ‘what’s
up’, I would launch into an excited reply, “Well, I am going home for Diwali.
What’s more, I am landing on the day of Diwali. My folks have no idea that I
will be there! It would be just like K3G movie. Except a helipad.”.. And now,
the innate entertainer in me would feel so happy to see the other person so
engaged and excited and enthused. In any relationship, I often take it upon
myself to engage and entertain the other person. I do not know the name that
the social psychologists give to this disorder. I just like to crack people up.
Sometimes I succeed; sometimes I end up embarrassing myself. But with this
reply, everyone was excited and happy. I wasn’t even worried about anyone
spilling beans to my family about my arrival because I knew damn well that my
life outside my family is highly insulated from the one inside. This and any
other blog I ever wrote, has never been
read by my folks. It’s quite interesting to have this dichotomous life. I guess
many Indians or many bi-lingual people lead those lives.
In my flight to New Delhi, I sat next to this interesting country
girl from England who was on her soul searching trip to India. She gave me
useful tips of reducing the ear-disturbance during landing and take-off of the
planes. Well she offered me sweet candies for that. Interestingly, she used
those candies for many purposes, including keeping her breath fresh every time I
popped a Wrigley’s gum. The best gift she gave me was the phrase ‘country-bumpkin’.
That’s the British version of the funny American phrase hillbilly !
As soon as I landed
at the Airport, I changed from my country bumpkin’s clothes into a three piece suit and cleaned up real well. When
I emerged out of the Men’s room, the Brit conceded that I didn’t look sexy, I
looked New York sexy. She had never been to New York. But I took that as an assurance
that I had completed this part in my theatrics of Meet the Parents. I do not
usually dress up to see my family. They have seen me in all shapes, sizes and
colors. Yet, on my last visit to India, I drew a lot of flak for not being nice
and clean ( after completing an over 20 hour ordeal across continents). Outside
the airport, I approached a pre-paid taxi stand and on hearing the fare of Rs
360 for getting home which was less than 8km from the airport, I got my first
reverse cultural shock. Even though I had no bench mark for taxi fare because I
either drove or used public transport in India, this first exposure to a three
digit expense in last two years woke me from my sub-conscious slumber of
jet-lag now. I surrendered though; theatrics had to be complete after all.
The taxi-driver was friendly. He met me first time this
morning and asked, “kaise ho”. I launched into my overly enthusiastic detailed
reply about my unannounced visit to home. He told that he also did the same
when he would go to Bhagal Pur. He wasn’t going home for Chatth this time
though. Too much time and rising prices would force his wife to observe chhath
in a makeshift pond in Delhi this year. While chatting, I would adjust my place
in this rickety taxi every once in a while to make sure that I was not overexposing
my head to the wind that would screw up my recently made hair. There would be
no big a** mirrors like those at Indira Gandhi International and the only comb
I had was now buried deep in one of the two identical bags I carried.
Despite preparation for over a month for this moment, as I opened
the gate of my house at 7am and started
walking upstairs, my heart was pounding like the dog that chased me on my last
visit to Delhi. I blame my funny looking red short for that though. I was here,
in front of doorbell. There was no mirror for a last minute check. I took the
name of Bhagwan Shankar and rang the bell, assured that I was all good. Out of
anxiety and nervousness, I rang multiple bells. Something that only I or my
sister do. My father opened the door thinking that it was my sister. My mother
stood by refrigerator, staring at me, probably just having finished with a call
to her brother. I could sense a pause of one second in the timeline of
universe. I really did. Our eyes were frozen. Our minds were pacing. To
understand what was going on. And now it happened. She cried. They hugged. We
hugged. We were oblivious of the two identical bags and the friendly taxi
driver from Bhagal Pur on the street downstairs. Three of us hugged for several minutes we took to absorb that
this happened. I knew my parents were happy. Very happy. But I wanted to
experience that happiness. I wanted to know how much happy they were. When
someone is enjoying a chocolate and making those umm sounds, I know she is
enjoying that chocolate a lot. But I can’t experience that by just looking at
her and by hearing those sounds. I was
happy too. I knew my parents were happier still. I probably can never experience
their joy till I become a father.
Regardless, I was happy that all this meticulous planning
and theatrical delivery resulted into a Happy Diwali –
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